How Does Everything Go Wrong

When a flock first comes to a new habitat, it is their nature to congregate together all the time so that they are less likely to be deprived of the basic demands in the Maslow Triangle, namely food and security, by any unprecedented factor. It is plausible that more brains improve the possibility of success in almost everything with more detailed thinking and more ideas, even though sometimes efficiency could be the cost. Every member of the herd enjoys this situation. Nothing seems unnatural with everything and everyone going on the right path.

Advanced creatures, especially human beings, are identified with a thing called progress in different periods of time. Things could not be better in the whole system, thus it is still natural that segregation is considered seriously to set up new, smaller, more flexible and somewhat more efficient system. Routines and regulations are so familiar for the moment. It appears that there is really no more value to be like before. The progress is simultaneously accompanied with identity actualization, which is far more advanced than basic demands.

Human beings tend to obtain more satisfaction from anticipation and even desire for future life, until their death when everything ends. The key point to this phenomenon is the tedium triggered by long-period stability. Stability and novelty are bizarrely and naturally looked forward to at the same time. It is nonsense to say that it is the same for everyone, but someone who used to be eager to get rid of everything around to embrace a totally new environment, while he realizes how nice it was and even blames himself solemnly when his wish comes into reality, does exist on this planet.

So far, the situations are quite similar between passers-by and the ones in our life journey. However, even if the nature itself and the normal thoughts and behaviors are hard to change whether with or without realizing the whole process of how it happens, a kind of better life for both yourself and the ones for you is worthy of being made efforts to achieve. Here to this point, both physical and psychological insensitivity shows its significance. There are two common misconceptions about insensitivity. Insensitivity does not mean unconditional tolerance or irresponsibility. I do recommend the book about it written by Watanabe Junichi. Insensitivity is really a kind of sagacity which can and should be used properly in any period of life. Neither life nor human being is a scientific formula. No matter it is between colleagues, friends, relatives, or spouses, every individual has his or her own personalities and desires, let alone the side effects of being with each other for a long time. It is impossible to set up an ideal model in which misunderstandings, animosity, or conflicts never exist. This is the eternal law of nature. It is always the right thing to try to change oneself when changing other elements is impossible, no matter it is luck, environment or people around you.

In life journey, someone comes in only to teach you a lesson, while someone accompanies you forever. This could never happen if the criterion of what makes a fit person for me is whether everything is always smooth and pleasant, precisely as how it starts. The art of life is mutual understanding and proper tolerance, and more concisely, insensitivity. It is basically meaningless to ask and be annoyed by how everything goes wrong like this. Things happen for reasons, to be more accurate, considerable reasons. Ultimately, the easiest thing that we are supposed to do but is usually neglected, is to treasure those who make us believe for the first time the arrangements of fate.