long-distance relationship

       Nowadays, a lot of lovers are suffering from the long distance, since they are far away from each other and have a few chances to meet each other. This situation is quite common not only in China but also all over the world. Some lovers stay in different cities and they can meet each other in holiday; some lovers stay in different countries and they can just meet each other only once or twice a year. It is quite difficult to maintain a long-distance relationship; many couples of lovers break up in the midway. So what can prevent the long-distance relationship from breaking up?

       I think the most important rule is to communicate with your life partner every day, telling what happened around you and listening what happened around him/her. Since the two people are staying in two places, the life is completely different as if they are living in two worlds. It is a must to know your partner's life and what your partner is thinking now. If not, the two people will have less and less things to share and they will really become the people from two worlds, having two different values about the world and life, which is doomed to breaking up. Thus the lovers should always communicate with each other, which is the basic rule to maintain a long-distance relationship, no matter how busy you are.

       The second rule is to resist the temptations and endure the loneliness. There must be many temptations around them, so it is quite important to resist those temptations and concentrate on your partner. Since the two are in different place, they cannot know if their partners fall love with another person. Because of the distance, the betraying often happens in the long-distance relationship. And some people fall in love with a person around them, because they cannot endure the loneliness. So the two people in long-distance relationship must have a strong self-control and can endure the loneliness.

       The last basic rule is to stick on loving your partner deeply. The only and primary thing that can maintain a long-distance relationship is the love. If they do not love each other deeply, it is hard and meaningless to maintain a long-distance relationship. Time and distance can weaken the depth of love, and to maintain love is not enough only by making a phone call and chatting on line. So the love is much more important for long-distance lovers than common lovers. Besides, since each one has to encounter and deal with things by oneself, the life for him/her must be very hard. They need to have a strong spiritual supports to give them power dealing with everything.

       In my opinion, the long-distance relationship is a test for lovers, that is to say, if they still love each other after a period of long distance, it is the right choice to marry that one. If the love cannot survive from such a little trail, it is better to give up early. So have a long-distance relationship before marriage, and you will know how strong your love is.